As a couples counselor working with gay men I am often asked my opinion on monogamy and open LGBTQ relationships. What works for men in long-term relationships? First, the research.
Several research studies show that about 50% of gay male couples are monogamous and about 50% allow for sex outside of the connection. The research finds no difference in the level of happiness or stability among these groups.
Next, my opinions and advice, based on my therapy practice.
Talk About It Openly With Your Partner
If you and your partner want to have a close bond and have additional sex partners, be prepared for a lot of talking. And I&#;m not just referring to discussions about when, where and with whom. I mean talking about feelings, what we therapists call &#;processing.&#;
If that kind of conversation makes you squirm, I realize. Most men are not socialized to embrace the sharing of intimate and vulnerable emotions. However, if you aren&#;t willing to experiment with processing then I suspect the closeness of your relationship may be limited, and you guys could be headed for trouble.
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10 Things Gay Men Should Discuss
Top 10 Things Homosexual Men Should Discuss with Their Healthcare Provider
Following are the health issues GLMA&#x;s healthcare providers have identified as most commonly of concern for gay men. While not all of these items apply to everyone, it&#x;s wise to be aware of these issues.
1. Come Out to Your Primary Healthcare Provider In order to provide you with the best nurture possible, your primary concern provider should know you are gay. Knowing your sexual orientation and sexual behaviors will help your healthcare provider offer the correct preventative screenings, and order the appropriate tests. If your provider does not seem comfortable with you as a homosexual man, find another supplier. You can consult the LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory for assist finding a provider.
2. Reducing the Risk of Getting or Transmitting HIV Many men who have sex with men are at an increased risk of getting HIV, but the ability to prevent the acquisition and transmission of HIV has improved drastically in recent years. If you are living with HIV, anti-HIV medications can support you live a normal lifespan and prevent you from transmitting HIV to your sex partners (Treatment as
Social work with lesbians & gay men
Brown, Helen Cosis and Cocker, Christine () Social function with lesbians & queer men. In: Social Serve with Lesbians and Queer Men. Sage Publications, pp. ISBN
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Abstract
Social Work with Lesbians and Gay Men provides social workers and other professionals with an overview of a number of key challenges and concerns that play a significant part in the lives of lesbians and gay men. Despite positive changes in legislation, social work can still fail to join the needs of lesbians and gay men, and remains a marginalized area in practice, research and teaching. This book promotes an understanding of these issues and proposes ideas for social work exercise that are inclusive of lesbians and gay men in assessment and the provision of services. The book clearly links facts and practice and is structured in such a way so that theories relevant to social serve practices with lesbians and gay men are covered before specific areas of practice are addressed. Key topics include the historical, legal, policy and theoretical context, a reappraisal of anti-discriminatory practice, religion
Sexual orientation and labor market outcomes Updated
Elevator pitch
Studies from countries with laws against discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation suggest that lgbtq+ and lesbian employees inform more incidents of harassment and are more likely to report experiencing unfair treatment in the labor market than are heterosexual employees. Both gay men and lesbians tend to be less satisfied with their jobs than their heterosexual counterparts. Gay men are found to win less than comparably skilled and experienced heterosexual men. For lesbians, the patterns are ambiguous: in some countries they have been found to earn less than their heterosexual counterparts, while in others they earn the same or more.
Key findings
Pros
Gay men and lesbians who are reveal about their sexual orientation at their workplace are more likely to state higher job satisfaction than those who are not.
The number of years queer and lesbian workers hold been open about their sexual orientation in their current workplace is positively associated with their profession satisfaction.
Good relations between employers and employees increase openness on the part of gay male and sapphic employees